Essentials in picking the right officiant for your wedding.
It’s your wedding day, the dress is on, your groom is waiting, but who is going to recite the words that will make you husband and wife? Here are a few essentials you should be looking for as you pick the person who will take your from “Will You” to “I Do.”
–Decide what type of ceremony you want. Will it be more civil, religious, or a blend of the two? If you choose a civil ceremony you might want to consider a notary, judge, or a justice of the peace. Each state is a little different in its regulations for such ceremonies. Also, there are minister who will also do completely civil ceremonies at the request of the couple.
If you choose to have a religious ceremony or a combination of the two, look for someone with a background that can accommodate the faith backgrounds of both you and your fiancée.
Many officiants are members of professional organizations that give accreditation for the services they provide. Ministers/Clergy should have received some type of educational training through a Bible college or seminary in order to perform your unique wedding ceremony. Civil officiants should have some type of state issued licensing and training to perform wedding ceremonies.
–Ask coordinators and other wedding professionals to recommend someone. Ask why they would recommend the individual to you. Wedding professionals attend many more wedding ceremonies than the average person and they can usually be a great resource to you.
–Ask couples that were recently married to refer someone to you. Couples love to tell “their story.” Ask friends that were recently married, check out the blogs, and read posts about officiants. Remember though, that one good or bad post is just that ONE post.
– Require a face to face meeting when considering your wedding officiant. The person on the phone or internet is trying to create an image that may or may not accurately reflect who they really are. Both you and your fiancée should go to meet your officiant. What one person misses or doesn’t pick up on, the other may catch.
Get to know the officiant. Ask questions that are important to the two of you. Examples could be, “How much input will you have in the ceremony layout and wording? How accessible are you before the wedding?”
Do your homework, enjoy the search, and good luck in finding the officiant that will make you husband and wife.